"I am leaving you, you chose her over me!" Mom said.

She listened to my Mother cry behind the door and refused to open it. Playing on Dad's weakness not to punish her, destroying their marriage for the first time, thats my sister, my mother was so hurt by my fathers weakness and choice over her... No empathy, she feels nothing, from what she has done and continues to do to family members. I quess you get older and remember all these things that happened to your parents.

Her daughters, protect her, but fail to know the truth, and continue to empower her. They curse at uncles and aunts, loosing all respect for them, as they protect their mother. They are just like my Dad, manipulated by her. 

I remember all of this because it is so relevant to her behavior even to this day. Nothing has changed.

"Hijo, you know the way she is!"

Family Members,

Another hot day for my mom, none of the poas have returned my emails or phone calls. The heat index will be very high today and all week. The house will retain the heat and humidity as the week continues.. Mom will not complain, she never does. She is made to worry about her money, and told she does not have very much money in the account since she paid for landscape, doll cabinet, dvd recorder, and communion present for her new godson. She does not want to make the poas mad.

The 5000 btu unit in the living room, I bought with Dad before he got sick. The unit in the kitchen I bought used from Aunt Mickey for 75 dollars. I asked the poas for money for a larger btu and they refused. Mom had no money they stated.

I had Doug's heating and AC service over two weeks ago and the poas refused to give me the keys to the house so I could at least get an estimate for a unit.

I hear they are going to put the ramp in the yard, money will go to a family member for that, but when he is not going to make money, they say mom has no money. I really dont know how they sleep at night. They are so conditioned to be cruel.

The AC unit has been a decision they made several years ago, they will not install until they have to sell the house.  They can say its a brand new unit and they will make more on the house. I am sure the realtors have told them that. POA are very efficient in saving and making MONEY.

If you care about my mom, you will give her a call and ask her how she is. She will tell you she is fine and drinking lots of water. If she passes out from the heat and dehydration, the family or fireman CAN NOT get into the house because the poas refuse to give us a key. It has happened twice already. The Head poa is fully aware of the this problem and does nothing. She can tell us where to sit in church but she cant get us a key for the house.

My Dad said to me, "You know the way she is" and I know what he meant. Its her way or the highway.....

Thanks for all your emails...

Mommy's Boy looking for a Mommy

So I hear stories of him cuddling up next to my mother, telling her how much he loves her, he wants her to be his madrena for babtism. He has seen the light and no longer worships money but now loves Jesus. He keeps telling my mom "where are your sons?" to make us look bad. He and his wife puts hundreds of pictures all over the house of him and his second wife and kids. From the front door to the patio in the back, all you see is pictures of his second family. No mention of the first family, we dont want to go there.

So I go over to see Mom one morning and I see that he has broken into my Dad's garage. He is looking for something but what? I scare him and tell him what the hell he is doing? He is scared shitless. He starts asking for my mom repeatedly. " Where is mom? Where is Mom? My mom is not his mom, his mom is dead. She mothered him so much, the turned into mash potatoes. He is hoping my mom will mother him like his did. All these years, he could care less how he used my mom and dad, getting every cent he could get. Making them pay for his second marriage, the old father of the bride trick. He used it twice. I told him to get out of my Dads yard and not come back. He ran like a scared rabbit to his car and took off.

I suspect he was looking for a key to get into the house to get to my mother. I am sure of this. I think he does have the key. I know I should have called the police, and I wish I had. I am sure our nosey neighbor saw the whole thing. Both poas have been informed and both have done nothing.

The man is so lonely that he is looking for someone to love him. His wife ignores him, because she perfers the younger crowd. I fear my mother will be hurt. He now has a key to the house.

I know one thing, dont let all her boys and step children know how they are driving the family crazy with hundreds of  pictures of their children, squirrels, birds, and breaking and entering Dads garage, and Mommy's Love. She does not want them to confirm what they already know about them. they are crazy. Thats why they had to move away from them, disown them and change their last names.

YOU DO WHAT I TELL YOU !

I went out to dinner with Mom yesterday and we had a very good time. She mention that she will be getting her ramp soon. I wonder who told them to get it done because it certainly was not in their plans to build and pay for one.

So I have pieced this together, this is how it works, so everyone gets their money without any knowledge of other family members or my mom. It is very important no paper trail is left. It has worked this way for 5 years or 6 years.

First, the local poa asks her personal contractor how much he wants to construct a ramp. He states his amount, say five thousand dollars. She then informs the financial poa how much she needs transferred into the blind account which she has access to. The financial poa takes a little for her troubles and transfers the rest. The local poa who has access to the blind account, withdraws the entire amount, keeping a certain amount for her trouble and gives the rest to her contracter, a close relative. No contract is signed for the work, no permits issued and no receipts are made out. Just the cash turned over. No family members or even mom is told about the payment. We have been told repeatedly that it is not our business, this is private. Also no other contractors are contacted to give a  bid on the job.

Making note, that my Dad have lots of building materials in his garage. Wood, tiles, tools, plywood, and it is all gone now. It has been removed by the two poas. I can pretty much guess where it has gone. Two very good long ladders still exist in the garage and they too will disappear. Like the local poa says to me "She won't miss them".

It will take him, the contractor two months to get the wood over to the house to build the ramp because we have been told he is a busy fellow. When I get I over there, I will notice the wood is third grade or used wood to build the ramp. I make a comment about it to the financial poa and hear nothing back.

I finally see them building the ramp, him and Santiago. The helper will be paid with a six pack. I notice the work is not very good. It will be very near completion and then left unfinished as time goes by. The Shirley Temple and her mommy boy husband will come over to critizize the work, they worked at Deere so they know everything. They will also inspect for any dead squirrels or birds they may have died during the contruction of the ramp. They will look everywhere for receipts that can turn in for credit or items they can steal from the garage.

I call the local poa and ask about the money paid and the unfinished work, she goes into hysterics for asking. Cussing me out til the phone disconnects. She says, "Where were you?, How dare you ask?, All you do is use me? Why didnt I get off my fat  a--- and help them? And the money for the ramp is none of my business. She then hangs up and calls all her family. Crying and having a tequila to calm her nerves.

I call the other poa and she says, "What ramp?", I dont know anything about any ramp. I dont have time for all this. I am too old to be bothered with all this. All of you guys are crazy, I am the only sane one in the family. And I told you, the financial and medical affairs of MY mother is of no concern of yours."

So we have no contract, no receipts, no invoices, no money transfers, no permits and no knowledge of a ramp being built by the son in law of the local poa. Both poas call my Mom and tell her how much I am bothering them, and I have dementia.

My mother is out 5000 dollars and it was all done secretly and everyone learns again to keep their mouth shut or they will riducled like their uncle. She said to me" YOU DO WHAT I TELL YOU! at Robert Young. Sorry, I cant do that, my Dad gave me other instructions and those are the ones I follow.

Family members you make up your own minds....

Family Members:

As we sit in mass for my mother, "she", or should I say "they" will be having the locks changed on my Dads house. Every detail has been planned. She is the self assigned executor and she will display her great power to us. We will never be allowed in again, we can pick up our belongings in the yard. They will be discarded there. A For Sale will be posted the next day, she is so efficient. She will say, "Lets get it over with, its fair, and lets move on."

Novenas for Mom? I dont think so, she no longer believes in the church. She has her wine bottle and she thinks she has Dad's blessing. He said, "hijo, dont let her run all over you" Okay, Dad. I wont.

Let the Family know that my Dads last will and testament were destroyed by her. He wished his house to belong to all the family. He loved us so much.

As some of you sit there and condemn me, know that I am fullfilling my Dads wishes. Would  you do the same?

My Dads Last Wishes

My Dad left his last wishes for the family in his last will and testament. After she obtained it, she destroyed his wishes and made them hers. Even in death, he can not have his way.

Your suffering in life does not even come close to my Dad's suffering. You broke his dreams more than once. Now, you intend on breaking his heart in heaven. What a wonderful daughter you are?

He left a will which states his sons were to administer his home as a place for those who need a place to stay and where we could come together. He wanted to take care of us even in death. My Dad was a  compassionate and loving man, but she does not know him this way. She changed his will to fit her needs because my Dad "was old fashioned" with traditional ways and compassionate ways, completely foreign to her. Selling the house and dividing the money is a much more "fair" way, she says. He does not know what he is talking about, only she knows the best way.

Reinstate my Dad's Will....

Robbing Money from my Mother

Family members:

I have requested financial reports twice from the financial poa and have recieved no replies. It appears robbing money from my mother is a very simple process since they do not have to answer to anyone, especially my mom and any other brother and sister. All transactions are paid in cash, sometimes to other family members, the financial poa states she has no record of it and pleads ignorance, no city permits are issued or receipts, therefore no record. If you ask about the amount of project, you are intimitated by a poa and told it is of no concern to you.

Projects in question for several years:
 1. Two trips Mom made to Alabama, in which she was invited to go but had to pay her own way.
2. Business trip for medical poa to Louisana, Mom was required to go to Alabama. Did she have to pay for her trip?
3. Entire cost of kitchen renovation, and contractor costs? Were permits issued? Was city inspection done?
4. Entire cost of bathroom renovation and contractor costs? Were permits issued? Was city inspection done?
5. Front porch reconstructrion costs, contractor costs? Were permits issued? Was work finished?
6. New sidewalk installed around house and front of house, what were the costs?
7. Landscape work this summer, contractor costs? Family member costs? Materials?
8. Gutters on garage, installation costs, contractor?
9. Back yard walking ramp removal, costs? Purpose of no replacement?
10. Patio carpet installation, installation costs, contractor?
11. New ceiling fans, installation costs, contractor?
12. Reconstruction of moms bedroom wall, installation costs, contractor?
13. Back yard tree removal, costs, tree cutter?
14. Xmas decorations last winter, costs, receipts?
15. Doll cabinet in living room, costs?
16. Dad's bedroom set, costs? receipts?
17. Expensive DVD recorder, costs, receipts?

I estimate almost 20,000 dollars has been used from my moms account and has not been accounted for. To steal money from my mother in this underhanded way is the lowest act you can do. You say you are doing her a favor, how, "setting your own price for the work" and obtaining the money from her account. You do not notify other family members and secretly steal her money. I request again to see a full and complete financial report for five years. I can not believe you have done this to my mom and dad.

"To the Eldest, the one who leads the way?"

Another hot day for mom. She dont complain, its not in her nature and you know that. Remember when, mom, olie, me went down the alley with all your dirty clothes to the landromat in the little red wagon. I dont remember once you helped us, not once. You ignored us, pretend it never happened. You were doing your nails. Mom never complained. Ignoring us with your reasoning "I can't take this" is nothing new to you. It seems you have not changed a bit.

With agencies now involved looking into different matters of moms care, all of this would have been avoided had you had the courtesy to keep us informed and treated us like brothers and sisters, but you never have, never. You can continue to blame us for everything and make your kids believe that, little do they know. But the truth is becoming more evident to everyone.


Our latest trip to the emergency room at Illini, the medical poa showed another display of her power to intimitate the doctor and us. She said again she was only allowed to talk to the doctor, not even mom would be allowed to answer the doctors questions. What exactly are you two hiding from the family? This is the second time she has done this, have you taken care of the matter, have you told her to stop this behavior? You show no hesitation to yell or scold us. I dont get it? You empowered her to do this from the time Dad was sick. I remember when you had my family kicked out of my Dad's house for a party we had for Lyle. Olie said you kicked her out the house and she lived in car for 3 days with Erica, I did not know that. There is no "Dad" in you at all.

You said to me, "you must do what I tell you" do you remember that at the Robert Young Center? and you confronted me when I did not. It was you who started all of this but now you take the back seat and say you have no role in any of this. You can not believe where the medical poa is coming from ? You trained her, remember and she is dumb enough to do what you tell her. She has no sense, only anger, like you. Anger toward all of life.....
For the second time you have plead ignorance about the key for the house. EMTs can not get into the house, keys hidden are removed from the patio. It was you who wanted no one in the house, change the locks while you had Mom taken to Alabama. It was you who started all of this. Will you take the blame when she dies because the EMTs can not get to her? They had to get in through the small kitchen window. Did you know that? Do you know what is like when I heard my mom crying for me and I could not open the door? I assure this will be part of the her eulogy. This will not go unsaid if she dies and we can not reach her because of you and the key.

You should have taken the authority to get mom's central air conditioner in the house for medical reasons but you have failed to do so. So mom suffers. Do you call her daily or do you take the word of the sister you have not forgiven?

You are in control of the money but have allowed others to waste money on dvd recorders, fancy christmas decorations, doll cabinets, etc.

Another winter is coming, there is no ramp and you sit by and do nothing. Are you hoping she will fall coming down those steps? The vent is still covered, should I get a fire marshall over there and have him order the doll cabinet moved? I will do it.

I have requested a financial report twice from you and have not recieved a word from you. You issued one long time ago, making us believe you were in control but it was only a lie. And you wonder why I think you are taking money from mom now? Family members have been paid in cash for work done. How convenient the son in law of the poa? Cash....I thought you objected to that. You held the rest of us to such high standards, but failed to have city permits issued so no record of work will be recorded, no inspections by the city?

There is no slander or harrassment here as you claim, only questions anyone would ask about the care of their mother. You have failed in your position, you have failed dad and mom. If you do not want the position, let the rest of the family decide who it should do it. And certainly not your daughter. It is not your decision. You and your sister were not chosen by our parents as you have claimed to be the poas. You dont own the house, you dont own my dads memory and you dont own mom.