Clearing My Dads Name...

I get a message and they want to know exactly what is tearing apart our family. Sister One says there two sides to every story. Yes there certainly is. Here is my side. Remember as you read this, reflect on how you would react and how you would feel because this is what I have and others have gone through since Dad got sick.

Sister one came with books in hand, not believing us that something was wrong with Dad. We did not know. We never had been through anything like this before. She did not believe until Dad got sick at Walgrens and the police had to be called. He went to Robert Young and she voluteered to attend to Dad while most of us c...ould hardly cope with Dad being sick. We heard the work "Dementia" for the first time.

Sister one quickly gained control of the situation, his medical attention. She stated to us that we follow her directions. In the days that followed, we were able to see dad according to the nurses direction. She quickly became enraged because we bypassed her. She came up to my face and told me that I had gone around her. She was upset.

While Dad was in the hospital, Sister one was insistent on finding the copy of the will. Since we were still in good terms, all of us quickly went through his files and found the will. She was delighted that we found it. I did not know her intentions and did not question her. After we found the will, she wanted to kno...w if a power of attorney was mentioned on it. We read the will and none were assigned. After she had the copy in hand, she did not want anything else. All his personal letters and cards, bills, personal items were thrown out in the trash.

I retrived these items in the alley later that day. After this, we had a meeting at sister two house. Power of attorneys were to be assigned as part of the agenda. It was agreed that sister one would take care of the bills of my father, I was asked to be medical and declined. The description was to handle the medical r...ecords for my Dad. Nothing was mentioned about changing the will or empowering the poa with controling authority over the family using techniques of abuse.

I went to visit Mom and said to me "Wait til you find out what your Dad did." I thought what could have he done. To my surprise, sister one was beginning her personal investigation into every matter my father had done. To no ones surprise, he had a personal account for his sister three. She turned my dad kindness into ...something of evil. Because he loved and cared for this sister, she decided to make it something she could defame him with. She convinced Mom that this was a terrible thing Dad had done. She made Mom feel bad about Dad. What kind of low life would do this? Who would take advantage of their sick Dad this way? He had no way to protect himself.

Because of his kindness and love for his daughter, she decided to use this against him. I was devasted what she had done. I bet most of you did not know this. My Dad told me over and over that money meant nothing to me. He loved his family so much. He would sacriface anything for his family. He told me it was his money... and he would spend it the way he wanted to. How would you feel if your sister did this to your sick father? How would you react? I decided to question her about her doings and conduct.

I found out that Mom had made some visits to the lawyers office. She said she did not know what she signed. She just signed it. None in the family were notified of this, it was all done secretively. I was determined to ask her in front of Dad and Mom. On an early morning, I asked her what was going on. What did mom sig...n at the law office? Why did you defame your father and what other investigations are you doing? She quickly became defensive and said it was none of my business. She frightened Mom with her reaction.

In order to intimitate me she picked up the phone and called the police. She said "there is a disturbance at 143-6th St.. My Dad was out of the hospital by this time and was sitting at the table. l went over to him and told him that sister one had called the police on me. I could tell by his facial expressions that he ...knew what was going on and he was hurt. She immediately came over and said "Why did you tell him?"

My mom was scared and sister one continued to whisper in her ear. She left as I was sitting there waiting for the police. They never came. I ask you, would you just keep quiet as you found these things out? Sister one quickly gained control of my Dads assets. She sent out one financial notice stating that if you dont l...ike what is done then its just to bad. As I understand it, if sister one can not conduct her duties then it goes to her daughter. How wrong is this?

My Dad was a kind and generous man, he had orphans he supported in other countries because he was an orphan himself. Sister one changed the will to meet her needs, influenced my mom to sign it and we have no say so. What would you do? If your sister, did this? No, I will no longer keep quiet. This is what my sister one has done to my Dad. Until tomorrow...

Another Close Call Dad....

Dear Dad,

Thank you for inspiring me to call mom. If I had not called her, she could have died in her bedroom like Aunt Toni. As you know, my sisters have locked me out of the house. I have no key for an emergency just like this. They knew this but took the chance just so I could not be in your house. Anyway they can hurt me, they will. In the end they will hurt Mom in their behavior. Hopefully, you can watch Mom and protect her from them.

As you know she was abandon in an airport and became lost. They were told not to do this but they did it anyway. No apologies were offered by either of them for their actions. They never do. They expect it to remain quiet and family members to keep their comments to themselves.

Also, Mom returned from Alabama and announced at the Christmas Party how dissappointed she was with those in Alabama. She stated aloud that they had lost their faith and their children had still not been babtised. She was very hurt by the visit. She mentioned to me that while she was watching her Catholic station that she was questioned why she was watchining this station in her house.

I ask you Dad, how can this woman eulogy my mother. Where will she get the gull and nerve to stand before God and represent all of my mothers goodness. A woman who refuses to say a rosary for you and mom. This woman will parade her self and her grandchildren on the altar and mock you.

Dad, I told to keep my mouth shut and not say anything. Just leave it in Gods hands as one would say it. Pretend nothing is happening. Sort of like, physical or verbal abuse, or alcholism, just ignore that it is happening. But no Dad, I will not keep quiet. We have been robbed by these two sisters of everything you represented. All your goodness. It is truly sad....

Your Son